Comments on: Marriage Intimacy Problems – Is Communication the Issue?

By: Amy

Amy — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 22:12:33 +0000

Married 45 years and my husband only had sex with me once, that was on our wedding night. I guess once was enough for him. But he just refused to have sex and any type of intimacy.He only slept with me once and that was on our wedding night. There is no love friendship no nothing in my life. Its more like living in an apartment building, you only recognize someone but never talk to them. He took up house keeping in out walk out basement the day after we were married. He only comes upstairs when something needs fixing or replacing. Retired now and I’ve forgotten about sex, the things I can’t forget is the lonelyness, anger, depression and hate. He does have a great pension and benefits and I take advantage of that.

By: Josh@How to satisfy woman

Josh@How to satisfy woman — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 21:37:57 +0000

Communication is everything to every relationship. It gets even tougher as the years begin to pile on. It’s worse when both partners are head strong and always have a say. It’s almost as if some arguments would go on forever, and always sway to the wrong direction because one will always bring in personal stabs to try to win over the situation. But winning becomes loosing, intimacy levels towards each other drop drastically with every bout. I agree with @Dan when he commented “We all have problems, getting down to the root is what will solve the issues.” the problem is, we all need to relearn what it means and takes to communicate from the beginning. That may mean trying to revisit the days the relationship started. Bringing back that excitement and playfulness and demeanor on conversations that took place. Revisit how it started, and how we spoke with one and other.

By: Elizabeth Fitz

Elizabeth Fitz — Mon, 18 Jul 2011 17:28:46 +0000

Thanks for this interesting and insightful post. I think whenever there are problems in intimacy there is some sort of problem in a marriage. Communication is absolutely vital for any sort of relationship to succeed, whether it is at work or in the home.

Actively listening and making sure we understand what our partners are saying will help in communicating. I like to start off sentences with “I feel” because it is less accusatory.

Best wishes,

By: Ken Jackson@Communication in Marriage

Ken Jackson@Communication in Marriage — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 07:14:56 +0000

The lack of good commnication in marriage definitely has a drastic impact on intimacy. Why? Because for communication is one of the top emotional needs for women, and sometimes men. Men are easy (most of the time). The main emotional need is physical intimacy…a.k.a Sexual. And this is where there can be a major disconnect between partners. We need to understand the importance of communication in marriage. Thank you for an insightful post.

By: Giselle Garrett

Giselle Garrett — Sat, 07 May 2011 12:14:16 +0000

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By: dan@titanium-cookware.com

dan@titanium-cookware.com — Mon, 18 Oct 2010 17:16:07 +0000

I agree that good communication is the key in any relationship to make it work successfully. We all have problems, getting down to the root is what will solve the issues. We just have to take the time in trying, rather then wasting our time arguing our point.
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By: Beth Banning

Beth Banning — Thu, 23 Sep 2010 20:18:11 +0000

Hey Don… thanks for stopping by. and it’s a wonderful thing that miscommunication is not the problem. There’s only a problem when we make it mean things we don’t enjoy.

By: Don@Timeshare Broker

Don@Timeshare Broker — Wed, 22 Sep 2010 15:32:07 +0000

It’s AWAYS miscommunication. Human nature suggests that this will never change

By: Cuth@To Win Back Your Ex

Cuth@To Win Back Your Ex — Sun, 11 Jul 2010 15:16:11 +0000

First off, it is a good post..
Misunderstanding is a very dangerous factor and it may have chance to ruin a relationship. A regular heart-to-heart talk is a good way to prevent misunderstanding..Husband and wife need to understand that male and female are different in nature…a good toleration is essential in maintaining a good marriage…
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By: Geoff Laughton

Geoff Laughton — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 19:23:49 +0000

Beth and Neill,

Great post. I think this is really a critical distinction that people don’t often consider when they look at dissatisfaction in their relationship. When you add in that people not only have different styles, but that expectations are also often different (and uncommunicated), it gets easy to see how the ship can appear to be sinking. Your advice here paves the way to so much other intimate distinctions, conversations, and possibilities. It’s also a path that can lead to deepening each partner’s compassion quotient; that is, each partner’s capacity for being and bringing compassion to themselves and each other. Without that, combined with good communication, a relationship’s going to be pretty hobbled in the long run.

Thanks for sharing this excellent place to begin, which seems quite foundational to know.