Comments on: Same Old Relationship Problems — Again!

By: Tyler

Tyler — Mon, 25 Apr 2011 18:47:47 +0000

Thanks for sharing… I look forward to renewing…:)

By: James Goksina

James Goksina — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 22:04:36 +0000

great post hope to see some additional comments next Saturday…chao

By: Michelle Busch

Michelle Busch — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 04:20:18 +0000

I have experienced this in my relationships. I attached meaning to what happened in my relationship with my father. I then would put my false predictions onto others believing they would do the same. When they stayed and didn’t leave like I thought they would I began doing some reality checking. I’m in the process of EMDR helping to “reprogram”. I’m finding that allowing reality today as it is takes courage and it brings me freedom.

By: Radosvetla

Radosvetla — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 15:05:42 +0000

Thank you Sara and Joshua! Both your comments are wonderful. I am reading now The Law of Attraction by Ester and Jerry Hiks and your words so much prove the Law. It is great fun to apply it and see your own feelings (most of all), people and circumstances change on the way…Today I managed to make a shift in my perception (initially negative) of a friend’s behaviour (also initially negative)and he responded in a grateful way almost immediately after I have changed my inner attitude…Amasing! Relationships are my challenge at the moment and I trust I am able to transform my “old relationships problems” into loving communications…:-)

By: Joshua

Joshua — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 21:34:57 +0000

Excellent comment Sara! One thing I have noticed about projecting images and shielding from others projections is that the more unhealthy people you interact with, the better your resitance becomes. My whole life I have been surrounded by people that have terrible emotional problems. But ever since I started meditaing on expanding the number of loving relationships and finding out what a truly loving relationship was. I love watching peoples relationships improve as I make little suggestions and they don’t even realize it

By: Sara

Sara — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 16:09:30 +0000

It’s also true that you also cannot predict what another person will do and relationships are between people. From my own experience you can certainly project onto the other person your worse fears or your ‘certainties’ about life. And then watch them play out in the most ingenious and horrifying of ways. Or allow yourself to be influenced by small statements from family and friends that you unconsciously fulfil if you allow them to seep into your psyche. I expended a lot of energy countering my ex-husband’s predictions but in the end I was not able to keep that up and became an unwilling player in it myself. Actually, in a way, my determination to ‘oppose’ his predictions upped the ante of his behavior. In the process I lost track of what I needed and wanted because it included him. So, it’s not only your own focus that matters but your ability to stay free of the focus of others while still in relationship. I’m happy to say that my current relationship seems to be the very opposite of the last.